We all struggle to find meaning sometimes, especially in genuinely difficult circumstances. It may seem like nothing we do moves the dial in our favour and even those close to us don’t seem to see or understand us. Or maybe even things that once held meaning now feel tainted and we can’t articulate why. OrContinue reading “What even is the point of everything anyway?”
Category Archives: behaviour
An argument for uneven growth
Growth can feel overwhelming. At least it can when we expect to grow in multiple domains at the same time. However, even working with one very complex domain can leave us feeling perpetually stuck; like we’re simply spinning our wheels. I’ve definitely experienced this. And I’ve also recently experienced a breakthrough. This wasn’t down toContinue reading “An argument for uneven growth”
Allyship and Ring Theory
Have you ever taken a problem to a friend or colleague and they have made it all about themselves; either because of their own experience (relevant or not) or their reaction to your experience? Based on concentric circles, Ring Theory (developed by Susan Silk) is a simple model for helping people to become better allies.Continue reading “Allyship and Ring Theory”
Understanding and befriending anxiety
The human brain loves to worry. Even those brains that aren’t particularly anxious are hardwired to worry, at least sometimes. Worry keeps us safe; so our brains relish the chance to scan the environment for threats, wrestle with a problem, and anticipate scenarios in a bid to avoid being blindsided. But of course, the humanContinue reading “Understanding and befriending anxiety”
Re-establishing connection after conflict
The road to relational repair can be a bumpy one. When we have behaved poorly, our bruised ego or sense of shame can hijack our accountability. When we have been wronged, it can be tricky to hold those we esteem to account, especially if we have unclear boundaries. Friendships and acquaintanceships can be particularly trickyContinue reading “Re-establishing connection after conflict”
Enemies (near and far) of connection
In Buddhist practice, near and far enemies are qualities or states which impede the divine qualities of the heart. Far enemies are a simply the opposite of each divine quality. Near enemies are a little tricker. While they appear similar to the divine qualities, they actually work to undermine them and drive disconnection. Here areContinue reading “Enemies (near and far) of connection”
The great cognition imposition
Humans are highly susceptible to error, and the mind – our strongest tool – is quite often the architect. To my way of thinking, this is not in spite of the mind’s strength, but rather because of it. Our minds are capable of tricking us into believing many things are rational and, therefore, a true representationContinue reading “The great cognition imposition”
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